Long story short basically my rights as a father been taking away from me I'm not allowed to Spend time with my child but the mom wants me to pay?

Your question seems to indicate you have made several attempts to request time with your son. For most children, it is in their best interest to have a relationship with both parents. Absent some reason it would be harmful to your son if you were to have time with him, the mother should be allowing you to see him. The right way to do this cannot be answered without knowing all of the facts. If, in fact, you have made numerous attempts to have time with your son and have been unable to reach an agreement with the mother, you should consider filing a complaint for custody in the county where you or the child resides. From my experience, it would be best to contact a local attorney to discuss your situation. Even if you are unable to hire an attorney to represent you, a consultation will give you an opportunity to explain more about your situation and receive some guidance on your rights and how to proceed. Lastly, it is importatnt to note that child support has abolutely nothing to do with custody and visitation. Put simply, paying child support does not "buy" time with your child, nor does failure to pay child support mean you lose time.